Impostor syndrome: 3 ways to identify and defeat it
What the heck is impostor syndrome?
Ever feel like no matter what you do, it isn’t enough? Do you often feel unfulfilled with even seemingly significant accomplishments? Do you downplay praise and compliments? You might be suffering from impostor syndrome.
There are many definitions of impostor syndrome, but here is mine:
Impostor syndrome is the insidious condition that prevents us from enjoying nice things by causing us to feel unworthy of receiving them – even if we worked hard for them. It is a dumb fear of being exposed as a fraud because we are not comfortable with our own genius.
Impostor syndrome is not merely a fear of failure – it’s worse than that. It’s the discomfort and eventual numbness to success. But it doesn’t have to be this way. In the video below, I describe 3 ways in which you can identify and overcome impostor syndrome.
1) You are hoarding information
Are you an information hoarder? I wrote an entire blog post about it. But if you have enrolled in more courses than you have time for, have purchased dozens of ebooks you haven’t read, and have downloaded every freebie that you find – you might be a digital information hoarder. You may feel that there’s a higher level that you need to get to before opening your business. The problem is, you’ll never know ‘enough’ and you aren’t giving yourself credit for what you DO know.
2) You are comparing yourself to other people
It’s normal to compare ourselves to others. I’d be a liar if I said that I didn’t. The issue with impostor syndrome is that the comparisons consume you and you never stop finding new people to make you feel ‘less than’. There needs to be a moment where you realize that you could be an inspiration or a blessing to someone else – if you only put yourself out there and get started. Impostor syndrome never affords you that opportunity.
3) You are romanticizing the ‘hustle’
What is pleasure without pain, right? Wrong.
Honestly, I have abolished the word ‘hustle’ from my vocabulary and never looked back. We don’t do what we do just for the ‘hustle’. Hustling is just a means to an end. There’s no trophy at the end of life for the person who has hustled the most. There’s no virtue in spinning our wheels and there’s no way to ‘cash out’ on all of your suffering for your due reward. You already deserve success! Yes – you have to work for it, but you really don’t have to hustle for it.
I think that romanticizing the hustle is the worst form of impostor syndrome because it allows us to be okay with ‘not being ok’. (And when did hustle become a positive word anyway?))
Let’s defeat impostor syndrome together!
If you have felt just a little bit better from this blog post and video, then I have done my job. Because I’m not just a web designer, I’m also an entrepreneur and an imperfect human being. If impostor syndrome is preventing you from taking the actions that you need to take, then you have an obligation to overcome it! Know that you are not alone in this.
You aren’t really alone in anything you do in your business and you certainly are NOT an impostor! If you need help with certain things, it doesn’t make you a phony to ask – it makes you smart. And I’d like to help you.
Continuously rooting for your success!
Kimberly Inez Mays
Online Brand Strategist, Founder
With over 10 years of web design and development experience, I help entrepreneurs build and grow their online brands. I love everything tech and can’t wait to help you shine online!
I currently reside in NYC with my 2 selfish cats and I’m addicted to caffeine (which helps with the late night coding).
Fun fact: My initials are K.I.M 🙂